Is Si Dian Jin (四点金) still important


Nowadays, a lot of youngsters would conveniently make do without all the traditions. The bottom line is as long as you are happy, that is all that matters right?
However, as the elder daughter of a traditional family, some customs are still very important to me. For example, I feel that Si Dian Jin (四点金) is a must for my wedding as I value the meaning behind this set of jewellery. Generally, it means acceptance into the groom's family in short.

"Translated to mean “four touches of gold”, Si Dian Jin represents the four corners of a roof — the groom’s family’s assurance to the bride that she will always have a roof over her head, and will be taken care of throughout her marriage. This betrothal gift from the groom’s mother to the bride usually consists of a necklace, a ring, a bangle and a pair of earrings." - you can read more here: http://www.goldheart.com/weddingblog/breaking-down-traditions.html

Although a typical set of Si Dian Jin (四点金) consists of a Necklace, a Ring, a pair of Earrings and a Bangle but it is really up to one’s preference. Some may prefer to pick an additional pair of earrings instead of a bangle. For me, I still went ahead with the 4 typical pieces.

However, I do not want the usual 四点金 with the piglets on the necklace because I want it to still fit my daily life after the wedding instead of tucking them into a safety box. Almost all my friends kept their 四点金 away because they find the designs undesirable.

I specifically told my parents-in-law and my parents that I prefer Goldheart’s MODE Gold 916 Si Dian Jin designs because they are modern and stylish, and this makes things less complicated. As I can be a happy bride who stays true to my traditions (and keep my elders happy), and get to wear my gift of love again and again, after the wedding.

Yeah, I received 2 sets of them because my parents got me a set of 四点金 for my bridal gift too.


To be honest, I was also quite afraid that my Mother-in-law would buy me jewellery with piglets, so I chose the designs myself. James helped me with the decision, of course. Choosing from the Goldheart’s MODE Gold 916 Si Dian was enjoyable for me as the designs are beautifully crafted to complement bridal gowns, while also versatile enough for to be worn “à la carte” for daily styling. I found out Goldheart actually use European state-of-the-art technology to create their Si Dian Jin, such that the designs are stylish and modern, and yet able to retain the values and symbolism of the Si Dian Jin gift.

Instead of just simply choosing one set, I customized my own set from the plethora of exquisite designs from different MODE Gold 916 Si Dian Jin collections. One that fits my character and individuality.

I would strongly advise you to do the Si Dian Jin shopping with your mother in law. Pick something that you can see yourself wearing even after the wedding, and on a regular basis! Since it’s a gift of love and acceptance from her, it will make her happy to see you wear them everyday too. :p

FYI, these MODE Gold 916 Si Dian Jin designs you see here can be bought individually too – don’t you think these lovelies make good gifts to your girlfriend, wife, mother and even in -laws too :)
Contributed by:
Maybelline Sim, Resident Blogger of My Fat Pocket, one of Singapore’s leading websites for women.
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